|The Lake Theater and Cafe|
|Lincoln & committee c. 1967|
Accumulating alumni information over the course of a year insured that I would recognize most classmates. It also gave me an opportunity to catch up in advance of the reunion. The rest of the committee members didn't have that advantage. Incorporating the reunion planning committee as a new group into my 'village'* was an unexpected benefit. It was more fun than planning a wedding–fewer details, I didn't have to buy an outfit, and, best of all, it wasn't my party 👏.
|Great weather, good view|
A 50th high school reunion can a momentous event to some, a non–event to others. In the course of 50 years, everyone has life's ups and downs with which to deal. Overall, the turnout was great, but it did take a little coaxing of fence-sitting alums who weren't sure that they wanted to attend. The committee members just wanted people to come by any means possible. We found an engaging article about ' reunion reticence' written in the New York Times and published it on our Facebook Page. Excerpted from it:
"On the surface, high school reunions are a chance to reminisce, reconnect and discover who has been posting deceptively flattering photos on Facebook. But the collision of past and present is also a time of self-reflection, measuring who you are against what you wished for yourself and what you think your peers expected of you.
For some, reunions offer vindication. For others, they’re a dreaded reckoning. For many they really are just a chance to catch up. But what most everyone has in common is some level of anxiety, as the insecurities of the past get thrust into the present."
As retirement nears, people’s lives start to resemble each other’s once again. There’s less drinking and more talking, with conversations focusing on “remember when.” People find value in being around others they knew when they were younger because it makes them feel younger. The 50th reunion is often the most well-attended. There’s a sense that this could be the last time you see these people. Plus, people go because they are able to attend. Like the 40th, nostalgia is strong.
— High-school reunion anxiety: Facing the old you
|Reconnecting and eating|
The lesson: With Earl pushing, Thelma and I spent the weekend back in time. We were definitely a more fun and interesting group at 68 than we were at 18.
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